If you are going to fight a narcissist or sociopath (or a man with no diagnosis but huge power and control issues) in a high-conflict divorce, you MUST have documentation. I tell my children all the time that words are easy. We know from being in a relationship with a pathological liar, that things can be made up. It’s why it is so important to have documentation to back up your claims in court. Yes, your testimony matters. It alone is evidence. But your testimony with a year of texts or emails will give you far more credibly and help you protect your children.
An effective documentation system for a high conflict custody battle is more than just a list of events. Your ex could easily do the same, even if you know he isn’t telling the truth. An effective documentation system uses a timeline of events, groups events by categories, and links to supporting evidence that backs up the narrative. I often work with clients to pull together a timeline of events and categorize behaviors. I can either teach my client how to do this on a strategy call or can work with the information my clients provide to create the documentation system for them to give their attorneys and use in court.
To get help with your documentation, book a new client appointment so I can get an understanding of your case as well as talk you through the steps for uploading information, and then purchase blocks of documentation preparation (under packages) in increments of one hour.
