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Sample Parenting Plans

How to use the Sample Parenting Plans:

  1. These are just examples and ideas. You may want to look through multiple versions even if the schedule is different from your proposal to get ideas of what else you might want to include.
  2. Use the sample parenting plans to give you an idea of what you want to ask for in your divorce or with a mediator. Often, people going through divorce don’t even know what to ask for because this process is new. And while my opinion is that attorneys should give you an idea of what is normally included in high-conflict divorce, I find they often do not.
  3. If a particular issue is not addressed in the examples, don’t fret. See if you can use the language and boundary setting within the plans to create some ideas of your own regarding an issue that may be of concern to you.
  4. I offer parenting plan review services (for anyone) at a rate of $75, which can be booked on the appointments page. Once booked, email me your parenting plan, and I will review with comments, looking specifically for loopholes and items that may escalate conflict.

* A note about the Every Other Weekend schedule: I encourage clients to think about an Every Other Weekend schedule with time from Saturday at 12pm-Monday at school drop off. You can read more about my Every Other Weekend schedule reasoning here, but briefly, if you are going to file for a modification, you will need evidence. Unfortunately the court will not give you much credence. Having documentation from third parties can be very helpful, especially as children are coming off a weekend with the non-custodial parent. Be sure to talk to your attorney about any concerns.

Want a professional divorce coach to review your parenting plan for potential loopholes or overlooked areas of concern? I provide parenting plan review services, which can be booked online in the documentation section of the appointments page. Parenting plan review is $75 (which is typically 30 minutes of my time). Once you book the appointment, email me the parenting plan, and I will review with comments and send back.

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SAMPLE PARENTING PLANS ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. THEY SHOULD NOT BE CONSTRUED AS LEGAL ADVICE. 

Sample Parenting Plans are created to help parents beginning to navigate the divorce process and need ideas for what to include when they speak to their attorney or other collaborative divorce professional. Items in the Sample Parenting Plans have been gathered from my own case, that of clients, and from conversations with divorced parents about items they wished they had included in their plans.

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    Sample Parenting Plan – 2-2-3 Schedule – Joint Legal

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    Sample Parenting Plan – 2-2-5-5 – Tie Breaking Legal

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  • Every Other Weekend sample parenting plan
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    Sample Parenting Plan – Step Up with Sole Legal

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    Sample Parenting Plan – Week on/Week off

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Parenting Plan Review

Want a professional divorce coach to review your parenting plan for potential loopholes or overlooked areas of concern? I provide parenting plan review services, which can be booked online in the documentation section of the appointments page. Parenting plan review is $75 (which is typically 30 minutes of my time). Once you book the appointment, email me the parenting plan, and I will review with comments and send back.

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Brooke specializes in divorce coaching for protective parents in high-conflict custody cases. As a certified high-conflict divorce coach, my mission is to help provide healthy parents with the information and resources to help empower them to take control of their post-separation lives.

 

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In enmeshed family systems, individual autonomy is In enmeshed family systems, individual autonomy is often relinquished and replaced by the wants, needs, feelings of the disordered person. The enmeshed person(s) often take on the emotions of the other and identify with the wants and needs of the individual to the exclusion of their own. 

It's important to understand enmeshment not only in the context of your relationship with the disordered parent but also your children's relationship with them. (This concept is also often used against protective parents so important to ensure that you are demonstrating appropriate boundaries with your children when third parties are involved.)
In a healthy relationship, people overlap in their In a healthy relationship, people overlap in their shared interests and needs but have their own space to develop as autonomous people. We have the freedom to tell someone no. They may not like it or wish that we would have said yes, but they do not employ manipulative tactics to turn the no into a yes. They respect us as individuals rather than an extension or mirror of them. 

While I would argue this isn't really possible even when co-parenting with a narcissist, this is a helpful visual to try to create needed separation after being enmeshed. You are trying to get to a point where there is little overlap between you and them - but it also means letting go of what they do. It is a really difficult mental shift when you are so accustomed to the chaos and drama of the narcissist. But it is work worth doing.
One of the most powerful visuals my marriage couns One of the most powerful visuals my marriage counselor provided me was this one. In a healthy relationship, partners are like a typical venn diagram where the middle overlaps to varying degrees based on personalities and preferences. In a narcissistic relationship, you become consumed by the narcissist. You may feel like you have autonomy - but just try saying "no" and see how much you actually have! The work once you divorce the narcissist is disentangling yourself from their life and the chaos. It is more than just physical space!
Joan Meier's research into family court is among t Joan Meier's research into family court is among the best in the field. She was in the One in Ten podcast in May 2023 discussing her research, which is worth the listen. 

Of note is this statistic. This is before alienation is even accounted for. The courts - the country - just do not believe women and children. When we think they will listen and protect us, we are already fighting an uphill battle. (And remember your attorney probably holds some of these beliefs as well.) You have to fully accept the reality of family court right now if you are fighting for custody. It's the only way to fight strategically.
Narcissists love to ruin holidays. It's their spec Narcissists love to ruin holidays. It's their special talent. (Want to know how common it is? There are whole Reddit threads on narcissists ruining holidays!) But if you can predict the chaos, you can plan for it. It will not ruin your holiday because you can laugh at how predictable it is.
He might be a #narcissist if... #familycourt He might be a #narcissist if... #familycourt
Attorneys are notoriously bad at guiding clients t Attorneys are notoriously bad at guiding clients through their divorces. They leave out things all the time, under the belief that most people will be cordial and work it out (even though they encounter high conflict cases all the time). Make sure you do your own research on things to include in your parenting plan. Ask others who have been through it what they wish they had included. Think about your kids' particular interests and schedules and make sure there is a plan for them. And, if the kids are young, make a plan for when they are in school. It will happen sooner than you think and what works for a 2 year old, doesn't work for a 12 year old. Free sample parenting plans are available on my website.
I divorced my disordered ex husband when my kids w I divorced my disordered ex husband when my kids were 4 and 7. I spent 10 years in my marriage unaware of the reality of who he was. And when I woke up to reality, it scared me. I had children with this person. My kids have this gene. It scared me. 

The summer after my separation, I created a 100 acts of kindness challenge for my oldest son (who worried me most) after a conversation with Tina Swithin. My son very much wanted a reptile, and I told him that we would get one after he completed those 100 acts. And all through the summer he would get a sticker on the acts of kindness sheet we created as he completed them. He became very helpful at the airport when we were flying, trying to carry the suitcases. He opened doors for people. He gave them compliments. Is it enough to make it intrinsic? Maybe not. But it was a start. It reminded me that this was a skill I needed to teach and reinforce. And having a plan made me less afraid of the possibility of my children becoming narcissists themselves. #worldkindnessday
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